Is Dating, Courtship, and True Love Extinct?
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| Are women fighting an uphill battle? |
Is chivalry dead? Word on the street is that women killed it. Some believe our species have become too available, accessible, and accommodating to the opposite sex. While I'd have to argue that this is not true for every situation, it does make me wonder. Is dating, courtship, and old school love extinct? Why don't men hold the door open anymore or write love letters? The evolution of technology has turned dating and courtship into text messages, skype dates, and Facebook statuses. But who is to blame? Technology or women?
Gone are the days when people simply courted each other. To hear older people talk about courtship is hilarious but simultaneously insightful. Men and women didn't sleep together on the first date, they spent time talking on the phone, writing love letters, and spending quality time with each other. Furthermore they met each other's families and both parties got to know each other with the intention of marriage. Where have these days gone?
Ok so not everybody is ready to get married. In fact it is my belief that until you are older and established, marriage should be the farthest thing from your mind. I don't however see the point in dating someone whom you wouldn't consider marriage material. And if this is the case, how come more "couples" don't spend more time getting to know each other in a non-physical arena?
But let's try to understand why women are now killing chivalry. Have we become too accepting of the change in times and romanticism or lack thereof? Do we just accept the fact that men are doing less and less or is it our responsibility as women to hold them to a higher standard? It makes sense that anyone will not exceed more than what they are expected. But I can't help but believe that men should play some role in this too. Why don't more of them exhibit more passion, care, and genuine interest in the woman they are seeing?
Ok, so let's not turn this into a man bash. I would have to play devil's advocate and argue that I have seen and experienced some of the most romantic and thoughtful gestures a guy could do. But was it because the man genuinely wanted to or felt pressured to by a/my/women's standards? I would like to think that chivalry, courtship, and romanticism is NOT dead because I see it everyday. A man who has true love, respect, and genuine interest in a woman will show it.
Ultimately a man/woman will do what they want to do. Just like there are sleazeballs in the world, there are gentlemen and ladies with class, respect, and appreciation for the opposite sex. My inkling is that much of how we treat the opposite sex has to do with how our parents raised us to. Many men and women grew up without good examples of genuine love, mutual respect, and healthy relationships. Thus they are incapable of showing this to others. I don't think that courtship or chivalry is dead, but I think if you desire it you can't expect it from someone who is incapable. If you find yourself wanting more from a relationship communicate this to the other person. Those who are willing to put forth the effort whether they know how to or not are keepers. Those that don't, well, they don't deserve your time. Sometimes you have to teach each other how to love. Respect should be received but also has to be given. Look at yourself and what you give out and if you feel that you are not getting a proper return, seek to change it or walk away.
Church Outfit of the Day
Wrap Dress: Old Navy
Boots: Charlotte Russe
Handbag: "Law Bag" from JustFab.com
Watch: Michael Kors
Sunglasses: Jessica Simpson
My New Job!
If you've been living under a rock or don't happen to follow me on any social networks, then you may not know about my exciting new opportunity with BlackHairMedia.com.
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| The OMG Girlz and I at the Bronner Bros. Int'l Hair Show |
Click Here to view some of the work I've already done. Also if you enjoy a post or video please comment! This lets myself and the staff know what works and what doesn't. It also shows that my viewers support me. I am so excited for this new opportunity and everything that will come from it. Stay tuned to the "Fashion Fix" and "BHM.tv" section of the site for all my current and future videos and articles.
Benefits of Yoga
Yoga is said to unite the mind, body, and spirit. But why is it important? Is it even a good workout? I've recently started practicing yoga and it made me curious as to why it has become such a phenomenon. Here's why:
1. It stabilizes your autonomic nervous system equilibrium
2. Increases cardiovascular efficiency
3. Increases flexibility
4. Normalizes weight
5. Increases immunity
6. Improves dexterity, posture, and resiliency
7. Normalizes digestion
8. Improves eye-hand coordination
9. Increases energy and endurance
10. Increases metabolism
Whew! That is alot of reasons to grab and mat and get to posing. I never fully understood how beneficial yoga was until I did my research and boy am I glad I did. Yoga is not only beneficial on the inside, but also the outside.
Ab Cuts Review
I have been trying out Ab Cuts for about 7 months now, but is it worth the hype? I think yes! Ab Cuts is not a thermogenic or fat burner diet pill that you may be used to. It's ALL NATURAL and uses CLA and Omega 3's to naturally burn fat in your stomach, butt, and thighs. So far I have had great results with it and I think it is worth every penny. Try it out and let me know what you guys think!
New Mind Body Cleanse Goodies
Last week I picked up some more healthy goodies for my mind and body cleanse. These items are from Whole foods and just some of the things I picked up. I will be doing a video review shortly!
These Shoes are BOMB!
I did a post about a week ago telling you guys I ordered these shoes and a purse from Shoedazzle.com. I received them in the mail yesterday and I must say they are GORGE! I love the gold detailing on the buckles, especially since I tend to prefer gold accessories. I can't wait to pair the black boots with some red jeans, a white top, and black leather jacket. I'm still debating what would look best with the brown boots. What do you think?
Make Your Work Wardrobe Fun
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| Blazer: DailyLook.com Tank: Forever21 Pants: NYC and Co. Bag: Love culture Watch: Michael Kors Bracelet: Juicy Couture |
Who says work clothes/accessories have to be boring? You can look fab in work attire but still look professional. I like to jazz up my workday fits by adding a pop of color:) If you do this while not overaccessorizing, you can create a look that's workplace worthy!
Mind and Body Cleanse Day 4
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| Daily workouts are a part of my routine |
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| I'm trying out new all natural products |
Initially I set out to do this cleanse for a few weeks in preparation for photoshoots, appearances, etc. But this is turning out to be far more beneficial to my body and mind than I thought it would. It's not extreme or grueling. Therefore I may find ways to incorporate some of these principles into my life on the regular.
New Fashion Buys
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Handbag: "Sebree" in white
Boots: "Dionne" in Cognac (pictured left) and black (pictured right)
I'm Doing A Mind and Body Cleanse
Today I had this weird epiphany...not sure if it comes with my new age or not getting enough sleep:) I decided to do a mind and body cleanse. I want to do a body cleanse because I'm getting older and life is short. I want to live a long and HEALTHY life. I want to treat my body like it is my temple. Although I'm a generally healthy person, with all the traveling and partying I've done recently, my health has taken a back seat. Lack of sleep, poor nutrition decisions, and a hiatus from the gym have left me feeling sluggish and in need of refreshment- THUS the body cleanse.
I picked up a few goodies today to add to my "health collection" as I like to call it. There's really no rhyme or reason to it but just putting things in my body to cleanse, detoxify, and nourish it. That means fresh and healthy foods, cleansing teas, and regular exercise. I'm also thinking of switching up my regular gym routine to do morning yoga sessions. |
| When u begin each day in faith, anticipating something good, God tells the angels to go to work and to arrange things in your favor. He gives you breaks, lines up the right people, and opens the right doors- Joel Osteen |
I'm not sure exactly how long or how often I will do this cleanse. It was kind of a spur of the moment but very much needed idea. If I'm motivated to do so, I will do more mind and body cleanse posts!
I'm 26!!! A Hearfelt Memoir
Yesterday I turned 26 years old. It's so crazy how time flies. If you would have asked me 5 heck even 2 or 1 year ago if I would be where I am today, I would have laughed in your face. What's that saying? If you want to laugh tell God your plans? Ok I totally messed that up, but you get the idea. So many things in my life haven't gone as planned, but I love the person it has made me into- a strong, independent, go-getter. I feel at 26 I have truly come into my womanhood and realize what makes me happy, what I will and won't stand for, and who I am. Every experience, success, trial, and failure has molded me into this individual that will stop at nothing to reach every single dream I can think of, and some. Some people get it twisted and think because they are ____ age they can't go back to school, go after their dream career, get married, go bunjee jumping, whatever! lol Age is obviously a physical and biological characteristic, but it is so much a mindset. If I believed that life was over after the devil knocked me down and told me I couldn't do or have anything I want in life...where would I be? This memoir is for me, but also anyone who thinks its too late to accomplish your dreams in life. Or even anyone who has experienced tragedy in their life but doesn't see the light at the end. My life is a testimony to all that it is never too late to find what makes you happy! I'm still fairly young all things considered, but I feel I have gained a mass of wisdom and knowledge in my twenties that will last me through the years. Life is just beginning for me and the possibilities are endless:) 
My Current Nail Faves
It's no secret that I ADORE Essie polishes. My faves right now are Essie "Muchi Muchi" (pictured left and top) and "A Cut Above the Rest" (Pictured bottom right)
What Happens in Vegas Stays in Vegas!
I recently took my talents to Las Vegas and had the TIME of my life!!! I love to take you guys along on trips with me so watch the video to see what should have stayed in Vegas! ;)
How To Gain Body Confidence
As women we can all be extremely hard on ourselves and our body image. With gorgeous celebrities and society's perspective on beauty dominant in the media, it can be hard to feel beautiful. Watch this video to find out how to build some body confidence!What's In My Train Case
I'VE GOT EXCITING NEWS!!!!!!! And a Giveaway:)
I've got some VERY exciting news to share with you guys as well as more updates, travel, goodies, and best of all FREE stuff! A video is worth a THOUSAND words so check it out to see what I've been up to!;)
This Morning's Post Workout
Some days after a good workout I like to refuel my body with nutrients and protein. Today I opted for this protein shake. Protein helps your muscles recover and keep you fuller longer. It's also great how convenient this is forsomeone like me, who's always on the go. This is a quick and easy option as a meal replacement or addition!
My Nighttime Beauty Routine
From time to time I switch up my nightly beauty routine. More recently I've been using these Crest Whitestrips every other night and doing a face mask once a week. This particular one works to moisturize and hydrate the skin. Last night I used the lemon mint mask which works to reduce oil and unclog pores. I'm also trying to drink more water for flawless skin. I've found that doing even the smallest tasks at nighttime can make a big difference overall!
Vickie's Secret! Shhhhh
Who can resist Victoria's Secret's semi-annual sale?! Not I! If you haven't shopped it already you are missing out! Watch the video to see all the goodies I racked up on :)
Summer 2♡12 Goals
Now that it is almost officially the beginning of summer, it got me to thinking about what I want to accomplish before fall hits. Here are my goals.In no particular order...
1. Blog More
2. Save more $$
3. Read my Bible more often
4. Improve my health & fitness
5. Enjoy my time more, worry less
6. Learn how to grill
7. Use more sunscreen
8. Work hard, Play harder ;)
What are yours?
Nautical Navy
Blazer: Express
Shirt: Forever 21
Jeans: Forever 21
Shoes: Charlotte Russe
Handbag: Love Culture
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